Book ‘A Radical Awakening’ by Shefali Tsabary

Read excerpt from 'A Radical Awakening, Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free' by Shefali Tsabary
Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free
The New York Times bestselling author and renowned clinical psychologist teaches women how to transcend their fears and illusions, break free from societal expectations, and rediscover the person they were always meant to be: fully present, conscious, and fulfilled. A Radical Awakening lays out a path for women to discover their inner truth and powers to help heal others and the planet. Dr. Shefali helps women uncover the purpose that already exists within them and harness the power of authenticity in every area of their lives. The result is an eloquent and inspiring, practical and accessible book, backed with real-life examples and personal stories, that unlocks the extraordinary power necessary to awaken the conscious self.
Publisher: HarperOne (May 18, 2021)  Hardcover: 384 pages  ISBN-10: 0062985892  ISBN-13: 978-0062985897  ASIN: B08QCWMWNF

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Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.

Book excerpt


Every radical awakening needs a spark.
This spark ignites the eternal self.
Without that, none of this.

This book is an ode to one of the deepest
friendships I have known.

With another and with myself.

The Time of the Awakened Woman

There comes a time in the life of a woman
When she discards her old ways like tossed shoes in the garbage
When she shreds her list of “shoulds” and obligations
And when impossible expectations are burned in an incinerator

There comes a time in the life of a woman
When the approval of others once jewels now turn to pennies in her sock
When the hunt for another is now replaced by a hunt for herself
And when parental tentacles of tradition no longer define her truth

There comes a time in the life of a woman
When her desire to fit in with the crowd dissolves
When her manic compulsion to be perfect vaporizes
And when her obsession to be voted popular eviscerates

There comes a time in the life of a woman
When she simply says “no more”
When facade, artifice, and guile leave her nauseated
And when righteousness, dogma, and superiority repulse her

There comes a time in the life of a woman
When she no longer fears conflict but faces it boldly like a lioness
When she guards her authenticity as fearlessly as she guards her babies
And when she drops the role of savior knowing she can only save herself

There comes a time in the life of a woman
When she no longer cowers in the shadows of her unworthiness
When she no longer plays small so others can feel big
And when she swaps the role of victim for the role of cocreator

There comes a time in the life of a woman
When she unabashedly and boldly occupies her ultimate sovereignty
When she finally feels ready to claim her space in the world
And when she redefines compassion as unequivocal self-love

There comes a time in the life of a woman
When she finally releases her childlike dependencies on others
When she dares to rewrite a new mandate of living for herself
One that says:
I release unworthiness and fear
I divorce servility and passivity
I divest inauthenticity and enmeshment
I end the pretense of being someone I am not

And from now on I declare . . .

I will ascend into my highest power
I will embrace my greatest autonomy
I will celebrate my deepest worth
I will embody my fiercest courage and manifest the most authentic me

The time is now
I am ready
To awaken into my renaissance.

A Love Note to My Sisters Before You Begin This Book

This book is about your awakening. It is an ode and an homage to your authentic self, the self that is waiting to be birthed anew.

We all yearn to be free, yet we feel encaged in our daily lives, consumed by fear and unworthiness. What these pages promise you is a path out of the cage toward a new vision of yourself.

To awaken and evolve means to deeply understand ourselves. This involves befriending the parts of us we may not want to see, especially our pain. When we fully accept our pain for what it is—without sugarcoating it, and certainly without apologizing for it—and observe the many ways we have cocreated it, we can begin to transform the pain into wisdom.

Understanding our pain is painful. This is why the words on these pages may trigger you. I want you to know that I have been intentional with these triggers. They are meant to ignite and evoke an inner revolution. The pain comes from a dismantling of old belief structures and ways of being. The feelings of shock, grief, and loss are therefore not only natural, they are pivotal for your transformation. You may not realize it, but you are capable of the evolution I advocate. More than this, you are worthy of it. Here, I share my own experiences so that you know you are not alone. I have walked in your shoes in my own way. Because of this, I understand how challenging this journey called life can be.

I gently forewarn you that this book is going to pack a punch, especially at first. Put on your emotional seat belt before getting on this ride. Because this book is an exposé of all the ways we have been asleep, it isn’t a comfortable read. When we shift into a new awareness, we tend to go through a severe disorientation. You will be provoked in unexpected ways and may want to put the book down at many points during this journey. We all have a natural resistance to the harsh truth awakening brings.

Be assured that just by picking up this book you have embarked on the first critical step of your quest for authenticity. The structure of the book echoes the pathway of your psychological and spiritual unfolding. As such, your journey is already underway.

Allow for insight to wash over you. Take your time as you read. Pause, reflect, journal. Let these pages be the birthing canal that lead to your authentic emergence.

So let’s begin, sister. We’ve got this. Let’s enter the ocean together. There is a new horizon on the other side. It’s called freedom.